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Your Disordered Ex — What you need to know for your divorce and child custody battle

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About this course

If your ex-partner is deceitful, manipulative, cruel, aggressive and wants to take your children away, you’re probably dealing with someone who has antisocial, narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, or psychopathy.

You need to know what this means for your court case and child custody battle. In this no-nonsense workshop, Donna Andersen, author of, explains the traits of disordered individuals, what motivates them, and how understanding what you are dealing with will help you make the best decisions you can.

Donna also offers suggestions for your emotional recovery. Fighting for your children is brutal and heartbreaking, so any steps you can take to reclaim your sense of self will help you deal with the custody battle.

This workshop was originally presented at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference in Albany, New York, on May 4, 2018. References to personality-disordered males also apply to personality-disordered females.


  • What motivates disordered individuals to do what they do
  • How personality disorders develop and signs that children may be at risk
  • How disordered individuals are physiologically different from the rest of us
  • What sociopaths really think
  • The key to moving forward in your recovery and your case

About the instructor

Donna Andersen is author of, a website that teaches people to recognize and recover from sociopaths. She is also author of Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath and the Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook. 

Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. She tells the whole outrageous story in her first book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.

Donna has collected more than 5,000 cases of people targeted by sociopaths, and has conducted five Internet surveys of survivors. She has presented her research on sociopaths to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy. Donna is the program administrator for Lovefraud CE, which offers continuing education about personality disorders for survivors and mental health professionals.

Donna has appeared on television shows including ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils, Urban Legends and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for multiple radio shows, print articles and web posts.

Many Lovefraud readers thank Donna for saving their lives.

Cost and credits

The cost for this course is only $25 for 55 minutes of instruction. Once you purchase the course, you can access it online as long and as often as you want.

Although this course does not award continuing education credits, you will be able to download a certificate of achievement upon completion.

Learning objectives

After this course, you should be able to:

  • Recognize if your ex-partner has a personality disorder
  • Understand why your ex-partner is unlikely to change
  • Anticipate how your ex-partner will behave in your court case
  • Take steps towards processing the emotional pain of your experience
  • Understand that you could not have changed your ex’s behavior

Program Agenda

55 minutes of instruction

  • Your ex is probably disordered
  • What is a sociopath?
    • How many sociopaths?
  • Red Flags of Love Fraud
  • Disordered motivations
  • Male batterers
  • What is real love?
  • Antisocial: inability to love
  • How the disorder develops
    • At-risk children
  • Physiological differences
    • Oxytocin: brain chemical
    • Testosterone
  • Sociopaths’ charming mask
  • No therapy or drugs
  • Inside the sociopathic mind
  • Your reaction to ex’s behavior
  • Child custody battle
    • Sociopaths use children as pawns
    • Sociopathic tactics
    • Surveillance
    • Smear campaign
    • Sociopath in court
    • Manage your case
  • Key is acceptance
  • No contact
  • Sociopaths love drama
  • Your brain on trauma – PTSD
  • Others may not understand
  • Sociopaths and obligations
  • Healthy habits
  • Deep emotional healing
    • Connection to earlier pain
    • Replacing the pain
  • Be gentle with yourself
  • Change your worldview
  • Prepare for opportunity
  • Protect yourself from sociopaths
  • You are not what happened to you


Here’s a preview of the course:

If your former partner is deceitful and aggressively trying to pry your children away in court, you are likely dealing with a sociopath. Learn about his or her deficiencies, objectives and tactics, so you can anticipate your ex’s behavior and respond appropriately.

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