Love Fraud, Abusive Dating and Sociopaths: Vital information for educators, school professionals and parents

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About this course

School systems often require teachers and other school professionals to be on the lookout for dating violence. But violence is usually the culmination of an abusive relationship — not the starting point.

What is an early warning sign that a relationship could turn abusive? It’s not control; it’s love bombing—over-the-top attention and affection.

In this energetic and animated presentation, Donna Andersen, author of and Red Flags of Love Fraud – 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath, teaches you to recognize exploitative relationships, whether the people involved are teens or adults. This information will help you help students — and will enable you to protect yourself as well.

You’ll learn the truth about sociopaths — people who live their lives by exploiting others. The number of people living among us who have exploitative personality disorders may be 12% of the population. Many exploiters start their manipulation and deceit as teenagers, although in some students the behavior is immaturity and they grow out of it.

This program is a video recording of Donna Andersen’s presentation to the Association of Student Assistance Professionals of New Jersey on February 27, 2015. You’ll see her presentation in full, including her answers to questions posed by the audience.

You’ll also receive a PDF copy of Donna Andersen’s original research, In Love with an Exploiter: How age affects the harm experienced by romantic partners. The research poster was presented to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopaths.


  • What is a sociopath? How do they behave?
  • Male and female sociopaths
  • Why high-achieving girls hook up with low-achieving, aggressive boys
  • What to do when a dating partner threatens to commit suicide
  • How to respond when students are suffering from dating abuse
  • How genetics and the environment contribute to personality disorders

About the instructor

Donna Andersen is author of, a website that teaches people to recognize and recover from sociopaths. She is also author of Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath and the Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook. 

Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. She tells the whole outrageous story in her first book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.

Donna has collected more than 5,000 cases of people targeted by sociopaths, and has conducted five Internet surveys of survivors. She has presented her research on sociopaths to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy. Donna is the program administrator for Lovefraud CE, which offers continuing education about personality disorders for survivors and mental health professionals.

Donna has appeared on television shows including ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils, Urban Legends and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for multiple radio shows, print articles and web posts.

Many Lovefraud readers thank Donna for saving their lives.

Cost and credits

The cost for this course is $25 for 84 minutes of instruction. Once you purchase the course, you can view it as often as you want. There is no expiration date. This course offers 1.5 hours of continuing education credit for education professionals. You’ll also receive a PDF copy of Donna Andersen’s original research, In Love with an Exploiter: How age affects the harm experienced by romantic partners.

Please verify with your supervisor that the credits are acceptable by your licensing board.

No commercial support was provided to Lovefraud Continuing Education or the instructor for this program.

Learning objectives

This workshop will enable education professionals to:

  • Identify traits and behaviors of exploitative personality disorders
  • Explain the Red Flags of Love Fraud — warning signs of abusive dating
  • Explain how normal human bonding may become abusive bonding
  • Support students who want to exit abusive dating relationships
  • Utilize best practices when dealing with manipulative parents

Program agenda

84 minutes of instruction, including questions and answers

  • What is love fraud?
  • Naming personality disorders
    • Psychopathy
    • Antisocial personality disorder
    • Narcissistic personality disorder
    • Borderline personality disorder
    • Psychopathic/antisocial behavior
  • How many sociopaths?
  • Young adults suffer more harm
  • Red Flags of Love Fraud
  • Vulnerabilities
  • What is real love?
  • Healthy relationships and bonding
    • Sex and your brain
    • Fear, anxiety and bonding
  • When boys and girls are violent
  • Smart girls in trouble
  • Partners as possessions
  • Responding to dating abuse
    • Threats of suicide
    • How to break up with an abuser
  • Teaching healthy relationships
  • Internet dating
  • How the disorder develops
    • Genetics and the environment
    • Age of onset
  • Social motivations
  • Substance abuse
  • Disordered hookups
    • Disordered boys and girls often find each other
    • Children with a sociopath
  • Abuse from sociopathic parents
  • Dealing with sociopathic parents
  • Protect yourself from sociopaths

Dating violence is the culmination of an abusive relationship, not the beginning. Take this course and learn to spot the early warning signs. Here’s a preview of the program.

Lovefraud’s research shows that people who encounter sociopaths at a young age suffer far more than those who meet them later in life. Learn how to help students — and yourself — recognize, avoid and escape exploitative relationships.

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